The various tools we have right now created the flexibility to build, manage and develop a business using the internet. The probabilities of producing a reliable home-based business are very attainable.

Unfortunately, here is the trouble… as we are working at our home office, we tend to have family or friends around. We don’t enjoy the privilege have an office and isolating all possible efficiency killers. Our loved ones are usually on the other side of the door. You might actually shut the door, but you simply can’t lock it. That’s distracting you from the work.

 

So how can we minimize distractions in all of these situations?

Firstly, make sure that your family members have a clear idea in mind that you are working on a project they don’t fully understand.

As you’re communicating your purpose for establishing a home business to them, they’ll hopefully see your interest or passion about it.

If you close yourself and do not tell anyone what you are currently doing, keeping it all confidential, that’s not going to be at your advantage.

Purely, because they are going to feel that you play around on the PC more than working on assignments. They’ll normally believe that it’s all right to interrupt or bother you, because they usually have no clue.

At the time, I was working from home. My mom and dad couldn’t seem to appreciate those things I’ve been trying to achieve. So I sat down with them and said, “… look, this is exactly what I am trying to accomplish at all cost, I cannot put off fires, because I have something more important here, where the payoff is enormous.”

By allowing them understand that what you are doing is not only for your own benefit, but it’s aiming to reward everyone…

They’ll allow you to work in peace without interruptions, or have at least a certain level of caution before trying to give you demands.

 

It’s hard to eliminate 100% of the interruptions that come along the way…

That’s because of the nature of those distractions. They are often in a form of unexpected emergencies, crisis situations, and “fighter flight” temptations.

If you share with your family what you are trying to achieve, at best, it is going to decrease them to a bare minimum.

On the other hand, if you choose to be “in your own universe,” your loved ones are always going to give you demands while trying to work, not to mention drama and disputes may come as a result, which might disturb you even more from your hard work to achieve the things you want.

As long as you convey the message, “what I am doing is important to me, and I won’t stop until it is done,” they will let you do it without drama and conflicts – guaranteed.

Just like explaining the stuff you offer to your potential customers, you must position yourself to your family members in the same way that you’re building a business.

Do you know what I mean?

You aren’t just shutting down the world, but you are working to create a better life for yourself, and your loved ones. You can’t do it though, if you allow them to go over you in moments while you are trying to make things happen.

If you do not get the time to focus on your work in any way, and get all sorts of interruptions, there’s unquestionably no practical way to get your business going…

It’s important to position the dialogue with your family members in a form that is aligned with your personal ambitions and business aims.

Be aware! You do not want everybody to know what you are doing. That’s because developing a web-based business is sort of a new approach of making an income. Thus the majority of folks wouldn’t normally view it as a fact, or it may be unnoticeable to most people.

If you decide to tell everyone (not just family), there are going to be undoubtedly the ones who will test or question your faith in what you are doing, because they do not have any frame of reference of what you do.

There’s an old saying, “The person who says something is impossible should not interrupt the person who is doing it.”

That’s why you might even keep your group of friends tight for quite some time, before you make things happen. That’s because dreams and goals are usually extremely personal. They do not usually involve other people.

The entire function of goals and aims is essentially to motivate you and help you determine the direction to more productive business campaigns or opportunities, not striving to impress or excelling others. They define the reason why you wake up each morning and doing the work that needs to be done.

What’s the missing piece when it comes to goal setting and motivation?

So when you begin to talk in relation to your personal and business goals to strangers, they wouldn’t care as much as you do. Keep in mind this phenomenon. It is really important.

I’ve been frequently asked whether or not you ought to try to get some office location, separated from your family home, or working from home, for the reason of being a victim of a lot of interruptions

 

The answer is quite simple…

When you’ve got uninhabited room in your home, in that situation, you do not need an office place, because when your family is in the same house, they would not be as often come and move things around. That is because you work in a location that is only reserved for work.

It is crucial to have an uninhabited area where you are focusing on your business. If you do not have it available to you, it is best to consider having something like this by all means. It is going to save you a lot of hassle.

Getting rid of the TV, radio, and additional “noise producing” distractions out of your home office space is vital. Since they usually do not serve well when it comes to focusing on tasks and getting tasks done.

Establishing an internet business demands a large amount of will power and only a few people around you would admire you for it.

When you begin to look and feel better, healthier or smarter, others may not like it, because it reminds them of their own insecurities and lack of growth.

I do not want to be too harsh with anyone or disrespect anybody, but when you keep putting efforts at your work long enough, the chances of succeeding are 99% – regardless of all present issues, problems or challenges.

You do not want to beat yourself up for no reason, because everything that’s taking place in your life today has nothing to do with where you are going or trying to accomplish.

 

All the things you wish to achieve are outside your comfort zone, no matter what that translates for you.

If you want to enjoy some level of success, it is necessary to separate your business from your family, which is all too often difficult… that’s why having a dialogue with them is necessary.

Family doesn’t have to assume that you are working to establish a home-based business,  they have to understand it.

There is a difference between assuming and understanding. We may assume a solution to a problem theoretically. However, this does not imply that we understand it, until we put it into practice.

The main ingredient at this point is to inform your family that you are establishing an online business, and you want them to support you, instead of representing themselves as challenges in a form of distractions, interruptions and drama.

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When we are really into something important, and all the sudden we get, “will you do me a favor” or “can you do something for me,” coming from people that we love and trust. Often it is hard to “say no” to requests we do not feel comfortable fulfilling, because of the work we are going.

Why?

Because in the past those people have helped us in some way or another, and we are feeling obligated to fulfill that request no matter if we like it or not.

 

What’s The Problem With This?

Robert Cialdini, one of the most quoted speakers on persuasion in the business world, talks about reciprocity principle – “the good old give and take.”

What that simply means, in the context of obligation, we feel a pull to say “yes” to those we owe and have helped us in the past. In this case friends and family…

It is really hard to break those chains of obligation when it comes to eliminating distractions from the people we love and trust.

However, we need to understand the current situation we are in…

When we try to build an online business, saying no, is not just important, but also necessary.

If you cannot say no to someone you love and trust, then you are in a position of jeopardizing your business. Why?

 

Because All Activities That Are Not Related To Your Business Become Pure Distractions

And instead of moving things forward, we are rushed to do something else and pulled away from our business activities.

Often times we are saying to ourselves that “this is just a small request,” like going out shopping with that person, cleaning things, hanging out at bars and restaurants etc., however, things like this tend to multiply.

What I’ve learned from Brian Tracy, one of the most successful time management experts, is that when you are doing the small and insignificant things first, they multiply!

Let’s say you go out shopping with your best friend. She needs a dress. It sounds like a 30 minute work, you go there, you like the dress and you buy it and come back…

Well, in reality, things are not happening that way … we have to make a choice, we look around, trying to find a better deal, perhaps that dress has  to have a specific color and so on… All the sudden 2-3 hours of the day are GONE forever! Initially you thought it could be for only 30-40 minutes. And this does not include hanging out with mutual friends along the way…

The bottom line is…

 

Things Always Take Longer Than Expected!

The inability to say no to requests from friends and family is endangering one’s business.

If you are afraid that you can lose some friends down the road, when you are denying certain requests they expect you to fulfill, we begin to seek for approval.

Usually small things are insignificant, if you say “no,” they might not going to like it at the moment, but often fades away quickly. Most people forget very quickly!

However, if some of your friends does not understand your situation, where you also have important things to do… you may want to talk to them in a ways that’s going to clear any confusion.

Having other people to make their priorities yours it is not an effective way of dealing in such situations. You always want people around you who can support you, understand your need for privacy, and bring the best in you.

Tip: Schedule or set aside a block of time for those type of distractions.  Often they are based on an impulse, and it might be impossible to detect them, but you have control over your own time, so you may want to give yourself more time to finish a task that’s important to you.

You are your own boss, and if you do not control your own activities, you are going to live someone Else’s agenda.

I am not saying that you should always “say no” to people, you have to do this in specific situations… and especially when you are focused at your work and have a concrete plan for the day to get the job done.

Also, I am not saying that you should put your business first and your friends/family second … there should be a specific time frame set aside for business and a time frame specifically designed for friends and family.

In fact, I am a strong believer that family and friends are more important than the business, but …

…there’s a line we do not cross, and if you mix both your business world and your personal life, then you are getting yourself into serious troubles. You always want to separate both and treat them as a separate entity.

 

Here are 14 ways to say no to requests, demands and opportunities:

    * “I have no idea how this works” – you convey the message that you are going to do a poor job on what’s requested, and they better find somebody else
    * “I am in the middle of an important project” – you simply convey the message that you are already busy and unavailable. You show that you have responsibilities and duties in place that have to be completed, before accepting any requests
    * “I do not like doing (whatever is requested)” – you let them know that if you do not enjoy what they requested, what’s the point of doing it? Somebody else might enjoy what you hate to do.
    * “I am not comfortable with (whatever is requested)” – this comes down to “moral implication” and value system. Showing discomfort, does not mean you are a weak person. It conveys the message that you believe that something IS NOT right and you follow those principles. In this case, what’s requested “does not sound right for you.”
    * “Let me refer someone who can help you with (whatever is requested)” – the person who gives the requests usually do not care who’s going to do the job, as long as it is done. What they demand on you, can be easily replaced by somebody else, who can do the job pretty well.
    * “Not right now, but I can do it later” – if are currently unavailable and want to help out, just let them know that you can do it at a time that’s BEST for you.
    * “I would love to help, but something urgent came up” – let them know that you are (or you are GOING TO be) working on an urgent task that has to be done in a timely matter. You simply reject their request, because something important to you happened.
    * “NO!” – it is okay to say no. Some people would appreciate your directness. If you want to learn more about how to say no…
    * “I have another commitment or I promised to do something for somebody else right now” – it does not matter what it is, you just want to convey the message that you keep the promises you make to other people, and you do not want to break them. Otherwise, never make promises you can’t keep. This may damage relationships with other people.
    * “I do not have any space left in my calendar!” – you are simply saying that you are overwhelmed with demands and responsibilities, and you do not have space for one more.
    * “I can’t focus on multiple (activities/tasks/projects) at a time?!” – tell them that you are going to do a poor job when you get involved in multitasking. That’s because you are in the middle of something, and if you try to fulfill other demands. You’ll be more effective, if you do one project at a time.
    * “I need some ‘me time!'” – You may want to do fitness, yoga, dancing or some other activity that recharges you physically, emotionally and spiritually. It’s fine to explain that you need ‘me time,’ and avoid any other demands, and responsibilities others trying to put on you.
    * “If I do (what’s requested) I am going to get sidetracked from my current project” – you simply say that you can’t have the luxury to get off track from your current activities. You simply send the message that you are on a mission and focused at your work.
    * “I am sure you’ll finish the job yourself even BETTER than me”– people often ask for support and help, because they doubt their own abilities to do certain tasks. If you show them that’s POSSIBLE for them to do it, they’ll discover something new about themselves.
          o First, you have to evoke their curiosity for doing that task themselves
          o Second, they have to feel confident or empowered to do that task themselves
          o Third, now you can show them that’s possible for them to do it! (follow this order)


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Do you have working from home problems, such as distractions?

Those who think working at home is easy are the ones who’ve never done it. It is actually quite hard working at home. We are our own bosses, and if we had people who managed the performance of our previous jobs, which is almost 95% of us, then it is not easy to know from where even to start sometimes.

Notice that I did not even mention the distractions we get daily from people who are around us and many other things that are screaming for your attention.

If you plan and schedule your distractions in order to overcome them, you’ll get the job done.

Here are the three simple ways to help you eliminate and in some instances minimize the distractions at home.

 

1) Surfing on Internet

This is quite challenging, because most of our work is done on the computer that uses Internet access. It is way too easily getting sidetracked from our work, when we see some interesting links to videos, articles and news. Sometimes we are telling to ourselves that this is a good thing for us, often times we can’t even help it, but really we have to know how to overcome this temptation.

By definition, if there’s something that allows you to do something else, not your work, then it is a distraction.

If you get distracted by the surfing through weird websites on the Internet, schedule a time aside to check your stats in Social Media sites like (Twitter, Facebook, etc.) and schedule your “email check” activities.

You can control the distractions, when you schedule them in advance, otherwise, you’ll have them to control you by popping out of nowhere and interrupt the hell out of you.

The “setting a time aside” method, for social media and email usually work pretty well for me, and I am not as curious about my email and social media profiles as I used to be when working, because I know that they can wait until the time I finish with my work.

 

2) Television

We can’t help it. We all have favorite shows on TV that we watch all the time. We use the TV to relax and rejuvenate, and almost automatically we grab the remote control, sitting on the couch, and begin searching for interesting channels or we get glued to it when something interesting appear.

We have only a limited amount of time throughout the day, so when we are trying to work, the best thing you can do is to turn off the TV, not reducing the volume, or changing the channel to something that’s less demanding your attention, but actually turning the whole thing off.

Train yourself to do this. It is going to help you tremendously in concentrating at your work and getting things done.

In my home office, it is really a separated room at home, I do not have a TV in it, because I know it is only for work, and if you keep the TV out of sight, during the hours of work, you’ll get tremendous leverage out of your time.

 

3) Keep the kids busy

Children are on top of the list of distractions, and our biggest inspiration. They always demand for our attention, and when it comes to actually working on your business at home, we get easily distracted. Even doing the simplest activity, as writing an article, it can take hours, if we get distracted all the time and coming back to it dozen of times, to finish it. It is not only frustrating, but it is also producing low quality work.

The best way to cope with kids interruptions is to plan your work for today, or sometimes even planning a week in advance.

Here are some things to consider:

1. If your kids go to school or when they are not at home, this is the best time to plan your work for today. If you are a parent recently, then you want to notice when they are deep asleep throughout the day and to schedule your work when they are asleep. Sometimes it is hard to predict, but babies usually have certain patterns that they go through, if you notice when they wake up throughout the day, it is very likely to wake up at the same time tomorrow, or in a week. Notice when they are going to be awake, or notice when they start crying, because this is often not just a random behavior.

We are habitual beings, and we do things on patterns and routines most of the time. Babies may have established habits to wake up throughout the day that demands your attention. Be aware of that, and write in a sheet of paper when and at what time they woke up. Also note at what time they started crying and so on.

Behaviors and actions are predictable, and if the kids did something yesterday, they are likely to do it today.

2. Also hiring a babysitter isn’t a bad idea, even if you are at home. So you are always going to be around them, even if there’s a person who can help. It is always a good practice to have somebody who can help you with this, not doing it all by yourself.

The biggest mistake one can do is to save money, but to put their time on the line as a result of that. Meaning, trading time for money.

Hire a babysitter, even if you are at home, is going to allow you to focus on your work. You want to spend money to save you time. If spending money on a babysitter is going to save you a lot, then consider doing it.

It is actually quite easy, because there are a lot of women who are looking for jobs at this economy, and you can find one very affordably.

What if you can invite over your friends to watch the kids while you are working, especially if you are working on a critical assignments. You may not want to abuse this, but friends are here to help.

 

4) Bonus Tip: Telephone Distractions

If you are willing to learn how to deal with phone calls and emails throughout the day, you’ll become dramatically more productive at your work.

The phone can be very frustrating distraction when you have family members and friends who love to chat, or if you love chatting. Your work hours are now the best time to talk on the phone, unless it is part of your job.

If that’s the case, you may want to have a separate phone line for business purposes, even though it is not required. There are some other ways around this…

If someone calls you all the time during the hours you work, explain to them that you are busy during that time and that you can chat later. The reason why they call is because they are not educated or aware that you are busy and doing things.

Educate people, tell them that you have certain tasks to do in certain periods of time, depending on your schedule.

Or the best trick you can do is to turn off the phone completely, so it won’t look like you are rejecting them. Often times we do not like rejecting people, especially the ones we like and trust. Turn off the phone while you work, and it would appear that you are not at home, or there’s some failure with the network :-]

It is great, if you have a voice mail to check it out after you finish working, in case you missed an important phone call.

Great technique is to use the voice mail to tell when you are going to be home or available, this is going to reduce the chances dramatically someone to bother you via the phone.

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For those who think working from home is easy, they probably haven’t done it. It is not easy to work from home, because of all distractions and interruptions that come from all people you love and trust along the way.

 

The Drama Is Often Tremendous

Because when you have deep focus and when you are 100% engaged on your business, friends and family might feel neglected.

Sometimes even conflicts occur as a result of that, they might try to make you feel guilty for not paying attention to them. The might feel like you are putting your business/career  first, and then your personal life and family second. 

When you work from home, it is very easy to mix your business and personal life, and that’s one of the dangers of it.

In this article I am going to give you some tips in dealing with your friends, family, and loved ones, so that you can really focus at your work, without worrying about conflicts and misunderstanding down the road.

You are going to accomplish a lot more out of your work, in a short period of time, if they leave you alone or understand what you are trying to do.

Of course, you may want to spend more time with them, but sometimes we have to make short-term sacrifices, in order to get long-term success or pleasure. In fact, that’s key!

You have to understand first that Internet business is a new tendency that most people do not yet fully understand. It is the fastest growing industry, but it is very recent. And many people are still skeptical about it (including friends and family). Often, they may challenge you, based on what you are doing and discourage you. That’s completely normal, as long as you stick to your plan and your work, you’ll eventually get there…

It is great to have their support down the road, but if you are strong enough, and have solid believes about what you are doing it is going to work, because you see it is possible (at least in your mind), you have this positive expectancy, you have seen results in advance,  and you’ve seen other people who have done it, and you already KNOW the process, if it is just a matter of time…

…then you have to minimize distractions at all cost and get the business running.

 

What To Do To Leave You Alone?

1) Show, do not tell – show them what you are doing, it is different than telling or speaking about it. When someone sees your dedication and actual work, they are going to get you more seriously. You want to give them examples, and show them the potential benefits out of what you are doing. They may not understand it completely, but if you speak with a passion, they’ll get it, because they know you.

When I was back at my parents house, I was doing my work there… and they were calling me all the time for small favors that distracted me from my work, giving me small tasks and things to do, and I said, “look, this is what I am doing, and this is how it works, it is very important to me so I’d like to spent some time doing it.” I simply got them to understand that working from home is not playing, it is actual work, because they do not know that…

2) Be Honest – if you lie to them or exaggerate about the potential your business may bring, you may lose your integrity in their eyes, especially with friends. Tell them it is not easy what you are doing, and you may fail sometimes, so there’s no 100% guarantee to work the first time, but you KNOW that it is going to work.

3) Instant Gratification – often times we have to balance it out, we can’t just work all the time. But if we seek for instant gratification more often, and not paying attention to our work, when you begin working, they are not going to get you seriously. One day you are doing or saying one thing, another day something else. This may be a little misleading for them, so make sure you have clear plans when to work, and when to have breaks and have some fun.

4) Be Mysterious – that’s the final stage. Do the work, don’t talk about it. After they understand and get you seriously, now it is the time to put yourself into the right frame of mind. Now, you want to talk less about what you are doing and do more of it. Action is everything, if you just talk, eventually people won’t believe you, because they see and assume things based on actions, not your talk.

In fact, talking about what you are planning to do is the enemy of doing what you’re talking about.

At the beginning is great to tell them everything and actually show them what you are doing, but you do not want them to keep messing around and actually giving you ideas, because they do not know anything about online business.

In other words, you do not want to become “the reporter” and informing them for everything you are going to do with your business. At this point, keep it all to yourself and share it only with those who you are working (partners, team members) – not your friends and family.

If you follow those 4 tips closely, and in that order, you’ll get tremendous success when it comes to having others to leave you alone while trying to work, without damaging your relationship with them.

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Interruptions, emergencies and crisis are part of life. They are inevitable, and often times they seem to overwhelm us, if we do not know how to deal with them.

 

What You’ll Learn?

In this short article, I am going to outline for you different techniques that you can use and apply TODAY to minimize the distractions so that what you’ve planned is not completely wasted. In fact, I am going to show you a way of planning that does not depend on your available time throughout the day, and it is completely independent from deadlines. Thus, your plans are never going to be affected by unexpected events and circumstances.

When we plan in a short term, and that is for 1-7 days ahead, almost all your plans are going to be affected in a certain way. Why?

 

Because Distractions, Crisis And Interruptions By Definition Are Urgent And They All Have Short Term Consequences

Let’s say, you got a phone call from a friend to do something. But you had already scheduled some plans for today. You do not want to disappoint your friend, so you accept the request. What that means is your plans for today are RUINED, because you abandon your schedule.

First of all, plans are just a theory. You create plans to set the direction of a particular action, but this does not mean you have to do it today. In case of emergencies like this, you want to allow yourself MORE TIME completing that plan. This will take the pressure off.

Most people give up, when a plan is interrupted once, twice or even the third time. This shouldn’t stop you from implementing things, especially if you correct the course of action. The reason why all your plans are ruined is because you haven’t established clear objectives of the plan. If there are no objectives, it is REALLY HARD to stick to one. It is actually impossible to stick to a plan without any objectives in mind.

There’s a little psychology behind this, because executing your planned activities require self-discipline and determination. However, you do not want to stick to the plan as it is exactly. Unexpected things you did not plan may always show up.

All you have to do here is to stick to a plan and adjust its course from the new learned lessons. Introduce new pieces to the plan, like a version 2.0, and follow the new one.

 

Planning is a learning experience, it is NOT an exact science

All plans fail the first time. But who cares, since based on the ones that failed, you can always create a better ones.

Planning is flexible. Do not think of it as a strict routine that you have to follow closely. It should be designed to give you overall idea of where things should be going.

And you can be as creative as possible with your plans, because action without planning is the reason of every failure. This is the Brian Tracy’s favorite quote :-]

 

So here’s what to do about it…

1) Always plan long term, at least 30 days ahead, but implement that plan twice as fast to validate it.

If you have an interruption on Saturday, you can always do this another time (let’s say on Sunday), because you allow yourself MORE TIME to finish the job. However, you do not want to wait until the last moment to do things, that’s why you may want to execute fast.

Let’s say you planned something important on Monday. If you know that you may finish with it at the end of the day, do not make any plans for Tuesday. Because if interruptions occur on Monday, you can jump and do your work on Tuesday instead. Always allow yourself more time.

2) Schedule your interruptions. I’ve learned this from Eben Pagan. All you have to do here is that you always want to start early so that you know there may be something unexpected along the way.

You can even schedule unexpected visits, how?

Do not set any conditions that may lead to unexpected visits.

Example: lock the door, turn off the phone, turn off the Internet connection, isolate yourself from the world as you work, because this is when you are going to get a tremendous amount of work.

If there are weird sounds from a nearby construction site, get ear dampening to eliminate all noisy vibrations around you to establish a certain noise control. :-]

Distractions are simply the enemy of progress.

3) Always expect interruptions. If you do not go that crazy and completely isolate yourself from all your surroundings, then you may want to expect interruptions as the worst possible outcome.

You want to psychologically or MENTALLY prepare yourself when an interruption occurs. Simply, you are going to take it more “lightly” than when it is not expected and pisses you off instead :-]

You are simply accepting interruptions and emergencies as part of life, and there’s nothing you can do about it. It is about the attitude here toward the distractions that matters. You will be amazed how more positively you are going to take unexpected events and circumstances along the way, if you actually expect and accept interruptions as part of life.

Always imagine the worst thing that may happen, so when something not that bad happens, you’ve already seen the worse possible outcome (in your mind). This is a little mental trick that I use, and it serves me quite well :-]

4) Know your deadlines. If you want to allow yourself more time, scheduling interruptions and unexpected things that may happen, this may affect your deadlines.

What that means is simply, you can increase the deadline of the project. If you do not have control over the deadlines, and that means they are set by an event or somebody else, then it is important to know them in ADVANCE. So you can act accordingly to set backs when you allow yourself more time for the overall period to get things done within the project.

You need a “flight plan” to be successful. It’s amazing how many people fail because they just don’t have long term plans . And having a plan isn’t enough. Just like an airplane pilot you must make course corrections to arrive at your destination – the things you desire the most. You should really get your hands on Brian Tracy’s Flight Plan Book + Bonuses – to unlock the power within you.

I highly recommend this book, you will really get a lot out of it!

 


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